So What Should Families Do Instead?

The answer isn’t to over-plan or lock in a five-year future. It’s to slow down, ask better questions, and build a plan that reflects the student — not the pressure around them.

Here’s what helps:

  • Start with strengths. What comes naturally? What gives energy, not just good marks?
  • Explore learning preferences. A student who thrives on structure might struggle in an open-ended course — and vice versa.
  • Understand what subjects actually involve. The name of the subject isn’t always what it sounds like.
  • Build from curiosity, not fear. It’s okay not to know what you want to do. Choose subjects that keep doors open without compromising engagement.
  • Don’t outsource the decision — support it. Students don’t need someone to decide for them. They need someone to guide the thinking.